Roast & Toast
For a birthday, engagement, promotion, or send-off. Each guest delivers one roast and one sincere toast about the guest of honor — the structure keeps it warm and stops it tipping into pure heckling. The two-part format is the whole trick.
What it's for
Honor someone properly — with the full weight of both what makes them ridiculous and what makes them worth knowing.
The guest's job
Prepare one roast line and one sincere toast for the guest of honor; both must be specific, both must land.
The vote
Best roast and best toast — two awards, voted by the table, with the guest of honor recused.
The reveal
The guest of honor responds last, to the whole table, unscripted.
Food & drink spine
Something celebratory and unhurried — the food should match the occasion, not just the appetite.
Conversation fuel
"What’s the story about this person you’ve never told them you still think about?"
How it flops — steer around it
All roast, no toast — it tips into heckling. Or all toast, no roast — it becomes a eulogy. Both halves are required.